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另一个不正确的观点，是我自认为很自私，因为我只生了一个孩子。事实上，生我女儿时我差点儿丧命，而且，我的丈夫不想收养。许多年来我依然觉得自己是个不称职的母亲，就像我应该信仰上帝会在以后的分娩中保佑我一样。

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对我而言，现在我相信，一个孩子正是上帝的旨意。我拒绝受到谴责。不过，我为不能实现满屋子的孩子的愿望，仍感到悲哀。

Liking　Yourself　More

Anonymous

Recently　I　turned　to　a　friend　who　was　riding　in　my　car　and　asked　her；　“What　do　you　like　about　yourself？”　We　rode　in　silence　for　several　minutes。　Finally；　she　turned　to　me　and　said；　apologetically；　“I　can’t　think　of　anything。”

I　was　stunned。　My　friend　is　intelligent；　charming；　and　passionate—yet　she　couldn’t　see　any　of　that。

I　know　she’s　not　alone。　Low　self…esteem　has　bee　the　number…one　issue　plaguing　women。　Despite　God’s　assurance　that　he’s　absolutely　crazy　about　us；　most　of　us　can’t　believe　he　means　us。　It’s　like　the　cynical　editor　who　tells　the　cub　reporter；“If　your　mother　says　she　loves　you；　check　it　out。”

I　have　been　a　reporter　for　12　years。　One　of　the　first　things　I　learned　in　researching　a　story　was　“garbage　in；　garbage　out。”　If　your　raw　data　is　flawed；　you　end　up　with　a　faulty　conclusion。　The　same　is　true　with　how　we　see　ourselves。　If　we　lack　self…confidence；　maybe　we’re　working　with　flawed　data。

The　reality　is；　in　hundreds　of　subtle　ways；　our　culture；　family；　friends—even　our　thought　life—conspire　to　undermine　our　confidence。　We　grow　up　in　families　void　of　affirmation；　encouragement；　and　respect—the　building　blocks　to　self…confidence。　Then　we　find　ourselves　smack　dab　in　the　middle　of　a　world　that　lionizes　Size　Two　Hollywood　starlets　and　Barbie…doll　figures。　Our　paycheck；　our　title；　or　some　other　artificial　yardstick　gives　us　temporary　entree　into　the　world　of　The　Accepted。　But　in　our　hearts；　we　know　it　isn’t　real。　How　do　we　find　our　way　to　the　truth？

I’m　technophobia。　My　brother　got　all　the　genes　required　to　understand　operating　manuals；　to　repair　things；　or　to　make　sense　of　puters。　When　I　first　had　to　learn　how　to　use　a　puter　for　my　job；　I　was　convinced　it　was　the　end　of　life　as　I　knew　it。

I　remember　with　painful　clarity　a　beginner’s　puter　class　where　the　instructor　told　us　to　“press　any　key”。　I　searched　in　vain　for　the　“any”　key。　By　the　end　of　the　class；　I　was　certain　I　wasn’t　smart　enough　to　drive　myself　home；　much　less　dress　for　work　the　next　day。　This　was　despite　the　fact　that　I　managed　a　home；　a　family；　a　job；　and　a　professional　staff。

Why　was　it　so　humiliating？　Because　I　pared　myself　to　the　l0…year…old　girl　next　door　who　effortlessly　surfed　the　Net　to　research　her　term　papers　while　I　struggled　just　to　log　on。　Instead　of　simply　concluding　that　technical　prowess　is　not　one　of　my　strengths；　I　concluded　I　must　be　stupid。　It　was　a　lie。

People　respect　us　as　much　as　we　respect　ourselves。　That’s　why　the　absence　of　self…confidence　can　telegraph　to　others　not　to　believe　in　us。

For　years　I　struggled　to　receive　a　pliment　graciously。　If　someone　plimented　my　hair；　I’d　discount　it。　I’d　say　my　hairstyle　made　my　face　look　fat　or　that　my　hair　was　a　mousy　color。　What　I　really　meant　was；　there　must　be　some　mistake。　I’m　not　worth　your　regard。　I　don’t　like　myself　and　can’t　really　believe　you　do；　either。　The　trouble　is；　if　we　persist　in　putting　ourselves　down；　eventually　people　start　to　believe　we’re　right。　txt小说上传分享

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Sometimes　the　problem　isn’t　faulty　data。　We　have　an　accurate　picture　of　ourselves　or　a　situation；　but　we　capitulate　the　first　time　someone　challenges　us。

Several　years　ago；　I　discovered　a　grape…sized　lump　on　my　left　breast。　My　doctor　scheduled　outpatient　surgery　right　away。　A　month　later；　when　I　resumed　periodic　self…examination；　I　felt　the　same　lump　in　the　same　hard…to…reach　place。　I　was　certain　of　it！　When　I　called　the　doctor　to　suggest　he　might　have　missed　the　lump　in　question；　he　insisted　I　was　wrong。　It　could　not　possibly　be　a　lump；　he　said；　because　he　had　removed　it。　After　all；　he　was　the　doctor。

I　got　off　the　phone；　doubting　what　I’d　felt　with　my　own　hand。　But　fear　of　lethal　consequences　gave　me　the　courage　to　insist　he　re…examine　me；　at　which　point　he　reluctantly　acknowledged　that；　yes；　it　did　seem　to　be　the　original　lump。　He　removed　it　in　a　second　surgery。

In　my　case；　I　had　to　confess　that　I　was　stupid　because　I　didn’t　understand　technical　things。　Yet；　even　after　acknowledging　that　I’m　actually　a　pretty　intelligent　person；　I　still　had　to　grieve　the　fact　that　no　amount　of　classes　or　training　would　ever　pletely　solve　my　technical　ineptitude！

Another　lie　I　believed　about　myself　was　that　I’d　been　selfish　for　having　only　one　child。　The　truth　is；　I　nearly　died　giving　birth　to　my　daughter；　and　my　husband　didn’t　want　to　adopt。　Still；　I　spent　years　feeling　like　an　inferior　mother—like　I　should　have　trusted　God　to　protect　me　in　subsequent　childbirths。

I　now　believe　that—in　my　case—one　child　was　God’s　will　for　me。　I’ve　rejected　the　condemnation。　Ne

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